The Smoking Fetish Forum Invent.com

So....... This is the recent video I have done in response to a post in the Smoking Fetish Forum

thesff.inventforum to be exact..... A comment posted that I was a bitch for not selling sex!!! lol

BDSM is not just sexual... its powerful... making people shake and jump with excitement!!!

One day people will realise.... WE ARE NOT prostitutes. xx

Am I Strange???

Ok,

So I'm a Mistress......

A rather odd occupation I know... I think its relatively normal but some people look at me strange when I mention what I do for a living.

Maybe I shouldn't mention it when I pick the kids up from school???

(as if!) (joke honest) (just imagine the uproar if i did tell them)

really strange things happen to me though, so i suppose i have a strange job to go with my exceedingly strange life, let me give you a few examples (100% true no bollocks involved)

1. My birthday Cake burned the house down when i was 4 years old (unfortunate incident with one of those magic RE-lighting birthday candles and a set of curtains)

2. The ceiling fell down on my 8th Birthday!

3. My stereo literally exploded recently (check last blog)

4. After I wrote my car off I had a suspected brain tumour and it turned out to be nothing!
(long story)

5. two weeks after I wrote my car off I had ANOTHER car crash!

6. I only went abroad for the first time ever last year.

7. Went down to see my mate for a coffee and half way through the police burst in and i was in the middle of a drugs raid! (I thought he spoke a bit funny)

Those are just a FEW of the strange things that happen to me.... So yeah, lifes pretty weird!

But I'm happy, Just a few thoughts anyways....

Oh yeah, I had an art exhibition done about me in margate, tvX are using my dungeon for real live porn!!! and George McCoy of the adult guide came to see me and gave me 5 stars and I'm making my own subscription website..... All exciting stuff!

Dungeon Fire... Smoking at its best!

Dungeon Fire.... (My Stereo EXPLODED!!!)
Last night I threw my usual monthly tv, bdsm, fetish party......
And my stereo fucking exploded!, myself and colleen and Christina were taking pics and fucking about in the dungeon, then we decided to go into the old Vault..
I needed a fart and went in the hallway to do it politely, everyone heard the fart, then black smoke stated billowing through the doorway! everyone starts laughing til we realised that the dungeon was on fire and it was full of black toxic plastic smoke!..... typical!

So, like twats we decided to tackle it..... we managed to put it out, but the fire engines had been called already and no need to say that it was quite difficult explaining what happened... and also trying to prepare them for what they were about to see also.... i.e, trannies and us lot all covered in black soot ! Thats one to tell the wife and kids when they get home huh?
Ooooops!

Cancer... A lesson I'm just about to learn...

Hi people,

I haven't been around much I know, we have just discovered that my Mother-in-law has Cancer.. TRAGIC is not the word for it!

It came all of a sudden out of no-where, the hospital thought she had a Stroke, but we find out its much worse.

For weeks she's been feeling weak, and having spells of confusion, yet she stayed silent. "dementia" she thought.. now all we can do is wait, watch her get ill, and hope for the best.

I've learnt that when things get serious, your body reacts, not necessarily quick enough, but those sign ARE there. Where my mother-in-law is a typical war child, she was taught to keep soldiering on, an admirable quality!

I can't even begin to tell you how we feel, there have been plenty of periods of silence as we all love her to bits, Dearly.

You keep asking why, you feel its tragic, she's not ready to go, yet, you have to carry on, not knowing whether the treatments going to make her worse, how long she has or whether or not the docs can cure her... what is a person to do?

Wait, be hopeful, thats all we hear, yet something turns in your stomach, and you know you are in it for the long haul because thats what you do when you are in a family... since this happened all I think about is how are we going to cope without her, and I don't mean in death, I mean how are we going to cope without her being on top of the world as she normally is!

Life works out right for the wrong people!

I'm only writing this, because on the outside I have to stay positive..

I'm hoping for the best xx

Thanks for reading x

Mistress

My first Email Nutter

This is the first email I recieved 18th August 2008
Dear Mistress Raquel,

Congratulations on being the first (that I know of) dominatrix in Thanet with your own website. I've looked through your website and so far am very impressed.
I'm a male masochist, and live in Thanet too.
I don't usually see dominatrixes, for various reasons, but you seem like a very good, open-minded, and skilled one, and if I change my mind on the matter, I will get some money together, and pay you a few visits for a few sessions.

Best wishes P

This is the next email I recieved (this twat assumes I must be a lesbian????)
Dear Mistress Raquel,

I can't be a FULL-TIME slave to anyone, as I have other people and talents in my life, which I have a love, loyalty, and responsibility towards. I could be a part-time masochist for you, possibly on a regular basis, but I don't feel comfortable agreeing to this, or giving any details out about myself at this stage. I also don't do any kind of unpaid or paid manual work.
Whilst I liked your website, something made me feel very uncomfortable about it, and that was the fact that there are no clear photos of you, but rather mostly an assortment of dominant and submissive women, engaged in bondage and other BDSM activities together. This makes me wonder, how much you really are into sexually dominating men for pleasure, or whether you are more lesbian in sexual orientation.
The rather vague photos that there actually are of you, in the gallery on your site, seem to me to be very submissive poses and expressions, with your head cast down, forward or at an angle, and your eyes looking up furtively or submissively, as I am usually a very good reader of character in facial expressions and body language.
I have mixed feelings about dominatrixes, but one thing that I dislike about dominatrixes in general, is that on their websites, there are no addresses or locations of where they work or practise. I wonder why this is the case, as dominatrixing doesn't involve sex, is not prostitution, and is not illegal. I think that dominatrixes need to organise, wise-up on this, and change this about their websites and profession, as it's not a very open, or user-friendly way of interacting, with masochist clients and people.
Please don't take my comments personally, because I do have some very pro views about dominatrixes as well, and in some ways have a lot of respect for what you all do, but I just wanted to be frank and honest about my first impressions.
Best wishes

So I decided to give the guy a bit of insight to me and my god was it a mistake this was my reply!!
19th august 2008
I was submissive for 8 years prior to becoming domme, also, I have someone
who doms me still!
The pics are showing what I can and cannot do!
Your "critisisms" are noted, the reason I do not want to give out my address, is because I get "stalkers" Freeloaders!
I am not a typical domme, you can see that from my website, what makes me different is that I have never deemed myself "above" my subs, Plus, I do not make loads of money from this and I have a private life...
I made the website, myself, from scratch, and I have constant interaction with my customers.... I fulfill their dreams often,> And I am more than sexually Dominant, I am clever, I am a Mother, I have a Bsc in Architecture and I have personality... Mistress Kent is my Alter Ego And I love her!

Then he sent me this...... 19th August 2008
Mistress Raquel,
Thanks for telling me about yourself.
Of course, everyone is much more than one work role and their sexuality.
I am a musician, and a published writer, but I am a pure masochist and submissive sexually towards women, I always have been, and I am not a switch in any way.
I write articles on masochism/BDSM, but mostly on mental health matters, as I have my own findings and theories on the causes/influences and cures to mental health problems. I am diagnosed with some mental health problems myself (Wait, this is the bit where he tries to get me to feel sorry for him), but I have always maintained that my masochism is not a mental health problem, although a psychiatrist once stupidly and ignorantly described it to me as "self harm".
My mental health problems, are that I occasionally suffer from some depression and anxiety, and I hear voices. They have been negative and intrusive voices in the past, and can still be at times when I experience anxiety or stress, but now I mostly hear positive, supportive, caring, friendly, and educative female voices. Still, my psychiatrist says that I am "mentally ill" because I hear voices. I do have some mental health problems, but I tend to reject the term "mental illness" because it's too medical and biological, as I believe that mental health problems are also caused by the environment and society.
P

I sent him a reply to say thanks for the in depth view into his persona...gave him my rates etc and then he thinks he can now move in for the kill!!!
There's absolutely no way I can afford to pay you £100. I'm on a very low-income/benefits, and only get a certain amount of money over, to go out socialising once or twice a week. What I was going to do, was to ask my mate Bill to send me a cheque for £50, so I could see you at least once, because he takes pity on the fact that I am a masochist, and has always said that if I find a local dominatrix, that he will give me some money for her; but I had no idea that you charge £100 an hour. I thought that you said you wasn't into making tons of money? Anyway, a big part of the idea of me fulfilling my masochist fantasies, was to make you money by performing my extreme masochism in front of special and select audiences.

Then I said my rates are my rates and that he is a bit cheeky.... this is the reply i recieved!
Well, I'm very sorry that we have to part on such bad terms, because we could have learnt and gained a lot from one another. You closed your mind off about all this, and reacted with ignorance and animosity.
I had no intention of being cheeky.
Maybe I was right all along, that most dominatrixes are for rich people in society, and inherently conservative about sexuality in general, and about changing society with regard to more BDSM freedom for everyone. I suspect that this is what you really found 'cheeky'. It's a fact that most dominatrixes are too individualistic, unorganised, and all jealous of each other, so I can see why you took offence to me saying that I liked to be public humiliated by a group of dominatrixes. I won't be seeking any dominatrix services in the future, and have learnt a few things along the way.

Thanks for reading!!! x

Mistress

RIP Isaac Hayes (to get old)

RIP Isaac hayes... not old enough to appreciate him completely, but fuck I loved South Park and his Chocolate Salty Balls!!!

65??? thats bloody young!

I hope I die when I'm 60, so I'm not wrinkly (although... getting old does have its good points..)

The good points about being an old lady....

1. You can piss yourself whilst fucking and call it "Gushing"

2. You can get away with running people over!

3. If you don't like someone pretend your Deaf "sorry dear?"

4. You don't have to bath for weeks and you can piss where you're sitting
and no-body says anything....... (bad taste I know... fucking shoot me)

5. For no apparent reason you can do the Sudden stop and change direction.....

Thats all for today...
Shall post more tomorrow... have to go out!

Mistress x

The Credit Crunch!

Ok, the credit crunch....

I think the whole world seems to have talked themselves into a recession!
after watching the news, panorama and various programs, it seems that
the recession is inevitably here.

What do we do?
Well, the advice is to cut back staff and curb spending... how do we do that
when we rely on these people... so not only are people losing thier homes..
they are losing thier jobs as well?

The government has alot to answer to... Global Warming is a farce, but I agree
that we are using too many resources.

I don't know what to think of the latest credit crunch, but to be honest,
I think we are being led to believe this is happening by the government
to scare us into not spending..... it worked!

Mistress

Mr Max Mosely

Mr Mosely.... What an amazing man!

He came right out and said whatwe were all thinking... Why do newspapers think its ok to publish something private?
Fair play to the guy really, I'm a mistress, and its because of media that we have to live underground!

Sounds to me like he was Roleplaying.... Didn't the Media get a huge shock when he came out and said "so what" two fingers up to the lot of you!

The report from the BBC (linked to my post), shows that the whole world agrees with him (Well almost!!)

I have lost count of the numurous times a customer has said that he is "ashamed" of his "urges".... WHY???? because we have been brought up to think these things are wrong.. Religion, Media and Bias. But we do live in Britain I suppose!!!!

There are many Women out there who's husbands like to dress up in female clothing! Yetthese guys keep it a secret, hidden in the depths of depravity where it should not.... because I know better than most, that keeping things locked up makes those urges much more apparent!

A NOTE FOR WIVES THAT WON'T ACCEPT ANYTHING OUT OF THE NORM:
Why do you think that it is wrong? .......Simply because you have been taught to think that way.

Thanks for Reading

Mistress xx

About me... The duplicated part for my first blog

First of all, I would like to welcome you ladies (and Gents) to my Page...
Let me introduce myself....I am Mistress Raquel.
I started out when I was 18 years old as a Submissive girl for my Master, Master Waite. After 8 years of complete submission, I then decided to switch after a rather unfortunate end to the relationship.
I have gone from being a Sub, to Pro-Sub to Domme now.....
But, one thing I have noticed, that in the "other existance" beyond the vanilla lifestyle, there is no guide to becoming a Dominatrix or "Pro-domme" for the "Normal Girl/Guy"
Thats where this site comes in, it's free, genuine and fun. Being Domme is not all whips and chains, its about love, freedom and above most things TRUST!
You will find a Quick Start Guide and if you navigate around my pages, you will find out alot more about me and some useful LINKS!!

Mistress..... xx